Become more attractive. Now.

Each day we face new challenges, problems, issues and fears.

We handle most of them with ease but every few of them are troublesome.

Unattractive men are usually so because the challenges they face with women scare them.

Some fear rejection, others fear the unknown and some can't help but compare themselves to other, in their view superior, men.

Think hard about your fears. Allow the anger and injustice you may have burn through. Perhaps it's bitterness, maybe it's jealousy.

Can you feel it? Good.

Now stop being a bitch.

It's not easy, it's damn hard and takes a lot of courage.

But it's damn liberating.

Flirting: evolved

You lean in and whisper in her ear;

'You know I want you, right?'

You lean back and give her one good look to confirm you're not bullshitting. Then you gently look away. As if something important is calling for your attention.

Which is true; You're a man, and a man always needs to be on the look out.

Flirting

You gaze into a woman's eyes and smirk. As if you knew a secret she'd love to hear.

You call her names, mess with her hair, tickle her body.

You're not being mean. It's fun. You're being playful.

It's flirting.

An easy starter

Approaching women is scary.

Make it easy for yourself. Walk up to a woman, say 'Hi' and introduce yourself. Starting the conversation is easy. Maintaining it is less so.

However, you'll never find out unless you try.

Go ahead. Approach the next woman you see and introduce yourself. Make sure you smile. It matters what you say after that, but act as if it doesn't and say whatever you like.

Because you need to make a fool of yourself, at least a couple of times.

What to do when you lack confidence

Some days I wake up at the wrong side of the bed, or with the stars not aligned or some such factor that sucks the confidence out of me.

Other times, it just hits at the wrong moment.

There are two ways to deal with this.

The first is through affirmations of beliefs. The secret is to forget everything you've learned by self help gurus and instead find a role model that resonates with you on a believable level. Someone you know you could be like and affirming that to yourself. A similar thing happens with parents when they think about how they need to be strong for their kids.

The other thing to do is to have courage.

You don't need to always believe in yourself. You don't need to always have the confidence of a world champion. What you need is courage to go through the process of what you ought to do, despite being afraid, nervous or not up for it.

You can't be brave unless you're afraid.

What is love?

I will be using the word 'love' a lot.

What, then, is the definition? Here goes:

Love, at it most basic form, is the respect of the subjects' well-being.

That's it.

So when I say that sex is an act of love, I mean to say it's an act of respecting your own and your partners well being.

How much you respect it and what lengths you will go to fulfill it depends on how much you love. 

Whether it be yourself and your own happiness or someone else's.

3 Levels of being Attractive

There are three levels of being attractive, and they build on top of each other.

1. How you are
2. What you are
3. Who you are

How you are refers to your behavior in terms of confidence and strength. Being attractive starts with being grounded.

It is possible for women to be attracted to men they don't find attractive. In other words, men they never thought able to attract them. This might seem fun, but it's an uphill climb. 

Cognitive dissonance kicks in if what you are is not the kind of person she finds attractive. Your job will be to keep her attention long enough to hook her. Usually by tricking her to invest time and effort into your interactions.

Instead, if you dress fashionably, have a decent job and a cool personality and lifestyle, your job consist of getting her attention once and initiate a spark. The rest will take care of itself.

Who you are is a question of social status.

When you have confidence and combine it with a cool personality and a habit of making great impressions, your status among people who've met you will start to rise. They will talk about you and greet you with enthusiasm. Keep this up and you will have a reputation that precedes you.

By then, your job will be to pick the women you like the best.

And we all want that job.